“Don’t forget to include some good self-care while raising kids. You need to take time for yourself.” I feel like I have been given this advice often by other moms, but it is hard to figure out exactly what self-care looks like in the day to day living. I can hardly go to the bathroom alone, so I can’t exactly jet off to the Bahamas every other week. My family is busy, my home is loud and my head feels cluttered most of the time. However, here’s one way I attempt to replenish and refill myself so I can care for this rowdy family.
When we decided to homeschool I decided I would decorate my bedroom. Logical conclusion right? To me, it made perfect sense. With four kids home full time I knew I’d need a pretty place to go when I could steal a moment alone.
Side note: Do you remember the Cosby episode where Clair, the mom, gets her own room? As a kid, I thought it was odd she needed a whole room, with a lock on it, to herself. I wondered what she would do with that space. It seemed wasted to me. Then top it off, she rolls around on the new carpet and invites her friends over all just in delight over this little room!
My room used to be the last place to be cleaned and the last place to unpack or decorate. It was an easy unloading zone. It was a hidden place to put the mess I couldn’t deal with that day. I decided to create a beautiful space to enjoy when I needed a mom moment. When creating my new space I ended up with a sweet little sitting area that has become somewhat of a special, sacred place.
It is where my husband and I do all of our family planning and sit and talk when we get the time. I try to drink my first cup of coffee here each morning. It is where I keep my dark chocolate for those times when you just need something good to get you through the roughness of the day. It is where I dream of what will come and ponder what has happened. It is my little corner of the house. Its where I’ve sat with a child and discussed great troubles and anxieties. Its where I read and reflect. Its where I cry and pray. Sometimes I don’t get to sit here for long before drama and destruction (wait, are those my kids names? I forget.) call my name, but even if only for a few minutes, it helps. I hesitate to even share my photo because its MY spot.
If you don’t have a special spot, I urge you to create one all your own. If you don’t have room for two chairs like this in your bedroom see if you can add a basket next to a chair or your bed to hold your journal, books, fancy pens and hide your chocolate.
As a mom, something that is all mine is rare. Mom, can I have a piece of that? Mom, can I have that blanket? Mom, can I have a sip? Mom, can you help me? Mom, can you carry me? Mom, can you wipe me? Hence, we all could use a spot to calm our souls so that we can share a piece, give up the blanket, hand over our drink, help with a project, wipe the kid, and carry the sleepy child. It is a place to refuel and attempt to continue on in this crazy life. A spot all my own.