I have a friend who is getting married. She seems to be struggling with “the event.” That is often the case with a wedding. Many close relatives and friends seem to have “ideas” for her wedding. So many hours and lots of money and thought are invested in “the event.” When in reality “the event” is not just that one special day.
“The event” is the many days, weeks, months and years that follow a marriage. Yes, it is a very special day and one that most woman think about with great detail and look forward to with great anticipation. But what happens when the wedding day has come and gone. What then? Yes, then “the event” really begins!
We do not just commit to the one-day event but rather, we commit for life. And, life brings change. Often, children enter the twosome followed by teenagers and their friends followed by financial sacrifices. I need to be reminded often of my commitment to “the event.”
Randy and I will be married 39 years on March 27th. That day was a great event and a fun celebration. We knew we were committing for life but we truly had no idea how life would unfold. We had no idea how God would stretch our thinking and use our marriage to transform us.
We accept each other’s faults and mistakes. Recently I broke my left foot. If I had been wearing shoes when I was coming down the attic steps at a fast pace, I would not be as “needy” as I currently am. Randy would not be spending hours lovingly caring for me. But it is all part of “the event” and he has been my feet making meals around here, doing laundry, cleaning the house, helping me wash my hair and dress and the list goes on and on. He has never once complained about this but instead thinks on what he can do to make it a little easier for me.
I have traveled across the country and back with this man, he has been by my side through several surgeries, he takes care of things around the house that I never even think about and through the events of life we now have three children and their spouses, eight grandsons, one foster granddaughter and many friends that we have met and loved along the journey!
As we finish this month of love, put some thought into how your “event” is progressing? Are the “events” of life and marriage transforming you? Do you celebrate your every day marriage event?